As mammals we are a social species. We have evolved to rely on being “accepted” in our social groups as a way to survive. In the stone age, rejection from a social group could literally mean death. Given this, it makes sense that human beings developed the essential skill of people pleasing. Because our culture values people pleasing so highly, attempts to set boundaries with others and nurture our relationship with ourselves are often met with displeasure or rejection from people around us. Simply recognizing that the impulse to please is not required in the moment, but instead an instinctual or conditioned response can create enough space for you to look at it objectively.
Read MoreThe best way to make our mark is through the choices we make each and every day. This September, I’m bringing colour and light to this month of transitions. Part of the reason for writing this blog post is to share this re-frame with you but part of it is to hold myself accountable. By putting this down in words, I hope to get to the end of this month with a sense of pride, peace and ease. Want to join me?
Read MoreFor many of us, spending time with friends and family can feel taxing – like we are meeting the needs of the people around us but they aren’t meeting ours. Here are some relatively easy ways to begin setting better boundaries.
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