Posts in MENTAL HEALTH
6+ Questions to Ask When Interviewing a New Therapist

Finding the right therapist for you is an essential part of setting you up for success on your therapy journey. But how do you go about finding the right therapist? How can you assess whether you’ll click with their approach or style during a 15-minute meet-and-greet appointment?


We know that this can be a daunting part of finding a therapist.

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Should I start therapy during the summer?

Most people who work with a therapist initiate contact when they are going through hard things.

When life gets tough, it makes sense that people seek additional support. Working with a therapist during life’s hard times can help people navigate stress, crisis, illness, major life transitions, etc. But most therapists know that the true healing work takes place once things have stabilized in the client’s life.

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Introverts and extroverts have different needs in friendships

Do you consider yourself an extrovert? An introvert? Somewhere in-between?

Have you ever considered how this impacts your friendships? Of course, we are all unique individuals and no two people are the same. Logically, no two friendships are the same. But there are interesting differences in the ways that introverts and extroverts function in friendships that can help all of us understand our own needs and the needs of our friends.

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Cannabis and Mental Health - What we've learned

This month we have been focusing on Cannabis and Mental Health across our social media platforms, and also during our more informal chats with each other at everwell. If you’ve been following along then you might have noticed that the relationship between cannabis and mental health is anything but simple and one-size-fits-all. The anecdotal evidence and stories range from it being an amazingly helpful tool for mood stabilisation and sleep to it being a traumatic source of anxiety and ongoing mental health complications. The scientific research is not much different unfortunately.

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Re-building (or re-claiming) relationships after COVID

How are your relationships serving you? Are there changes that could allow these relationships to serve you better? What holds you back from making the changes that would allow your relationships to shine more light on your life as opposed to taking away your shine and joy? This reflection may take a while – these are hard questions to wrestle with – especially for people pleasers.

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How Pandemic Clutter Affects your Mental Health

Overnight, our homes became our offices, classrooms, playgrounds, spas, restaurants, movie theatres and whatever other function you had to fashion out of four walls. It’s now April 2022 and along with the flowers, new hope is budding. We are emerging from a 2-year hibernation, and we finally seem to have the space to look around and reassess our spaces.
Clearing the physical clutter and build-up can be an amazing nudge towards clearing out the mental clutter and mess that this pandemic has left in its wake.

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Courage - In Their Own Words

This month, we have decided to highlight the courageous acts and people from various parts of the world where people are being forced to face fear, terror and violence on a daily basis. We want to share their words and experiences. They are the experts and we are honoured to move the spotlight of our blog onto these folks, however small that spotlight might be.

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Intimacy in Parenthood - Sex After Baby

Exhaustion, body changes, pregnancy fears, interruptions from baby, and feeling touched out could all serve to activate the inhibitory sexual response system that just says “No way, I can’t get there right now.”

This is especially true when babies are very small or are high-needs and they require so much from their primary caregivers.

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Sexual Brakes and Accelerators

We’d like to introduce you to the concept of sexual brakes and accelerators. We were introduced to this concept in Emily Nagoski’s incredible book Come As You Are (which we highly recommend). The concept is very simple – there are things that act as accelerators of our desire and other things that act as brakes. The “things” can be sights, sounds, ideas, memories, sensations, etc. Most people have a general sense that there are certain things that turn them on sexually and others that turn them off. But rarely do we stop to deeply consider how we can use the concepts of sexual brakes and accelerators to enhance our sexual experiences.

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Top 3 FAQs about Online Therapy

What I have noticed is: 1) people seek therapy for many different challenges like stress management, trauma processing, relationships issues, gender exploration and thousands of other unique reasons; and 2) there are some common themes that emerge around why someone has taken the step to actually seek assistance from a mental health professional.

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Thinking Therapy?

What I have noticed is: 1) people seek therapy for many different challenges like stress management, trauma processing, relationships issues, gender exploration and thousands of other unique reasons; and 2) there are some common themes that emerge around why someone has taken the step to actually seek assistance from a mental health professional.

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Stress and Your Window of Tolerance

“Window of tolerance” refers to a zone of 'arousal' or stimulation in which people are able to function and thrive in everyday life.

In this blog post we’d like to use this concept to help you develop some awareness of the cues that your body and mind may be sending you when you are outside of your window of tolerance.

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Where is Your Stress Coming From?

Stress is a reality for all of us. There is no way to get through life without dealing with stress.

On the one hand, it is helpful to approach stress with acceptance in order to live with as much ease as possible. On the other hand, when dealing with large amounts of constant stress, it is important to realize that it doesn’t always have to be this way.

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Why is it So Hard to Rest?

This month at everwell we’ve been focusing on challenging the societal narratives that uphold ‘Grind Culture’. There are many narratives that are common in our culture that prioritize productivity, achievement, and busy-ness over rest, self-care and groundedness. We are all carrying these narratives with us in some form or another. But even when we begin to challenge these narratives, many of us run into resistance to the idea of rest and the actions needed to step out of the ‘grind’ we are so used to. So let’s take a look at this resistance and how it might be showing up for you.

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Talking about COVID-19: Taking Care of Yourself is Productive

As a psychotherapist I know too well the negative effects of prioritizing productivity over all else. Heck, as a human I know the negative effects of this and how it shows up in my own life. Although life has technically slowed down for some during this time –for many it hasn’t and for most of us it has meant a much more disorganized and hectic day to day. And yet, the pressures we continue to put on ourselves to be productive are alive and well.

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Talking about COVID-19: We’re Living with Grief

Longing for the things the way they used to be? Find yourself wishfully thinking that you might wake up tomorrow and things will be “back to normal”, even though you are completely aware that’s impossible? Yearning for the physical touch of a loved one that you haven’t been able to hold for far too long? Ever catch yourself engrossed in something and completely forgetting about how different life is for just for a few seconds? Is there that heaviness in your chest or that knot in your stomach that never seems to go away? All of this is grief.

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Talking about COVID-19: Helping our Kids Cope

We’re all struggling to keep things as ‘normal’ as possible for our kids. But, how can we protect them through this crisis when there are things completely outside of our control? Dealing with uncertainty during this pandemic is challenging for most adults, never mind kids. But, there is a way to help our kids build resiliency during this time.

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Talking about COVID-19: 7 Tips to Help You Feel Less Isolated

The good news is there’s a HUGE difference between social distancing and physical distancing. As someone who has worked from home for the last year, I’ve somewhat had to adapt myself to social distancing. The current situation has amplified this two-fold and I’ve realized that there are many things I could have been doing for the last year that would have helped me feel not so isolated. Here are some my tips…

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Mental Health Week: Let's Get Real about How We're Really Feeling

2020 marks The Canadian Mental Health Association’s 69th annual Mental Health Week. Mental Health Week helps to shift societal beliefs and perceptions about mental health. It helps promote behaviours and attitudes that foster well-being, support good mental health and create a culture of understanding and acceptance. The theme of this year’s Mental Health Week, May 4-10, 2020 is ‘social connection’ and its importance for mental health.

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